See this lovely face peeking out...........this is Monica of Girl Gone Thread Wild. Monica has a giving heart the size of the state she lives in. Monica has ideas and Monica makes them happen.......and all her ideas benefit others. Her enthusiasm for these endeavors is catchy and you can't help wanting to jump on her wagon. You can't help but feel her pride swell when so many want to take part or help or bid or leave her a supportive comment.
Monica makes things happen!
Remember the Pink Artist Doll called "Love Squared"?
Artists from everywhere sent her 2"x2" squares with the theme of pink and fighting breast cancer. She fashioned those treasures in to an exquisite doll that was featured in Art Doll Quarterly and later auctioned off (with other art donated by various artists) in support of Susan G. Komen for the Cure.
BUT when that was done she wasn't.........oh no not Monica!
She had many left overs of those wee squares and asked several people (including myself) if they would make a 10"x10" quilt block in any design they wanted but include the squares she'd send us in some way.
NOW.......in the inaugural issue of a new Stampington publication called Art Quilting Studio (hitting stands on June 1 I believe) these quilt blocks and an article are featured.
Another dream of this kind heart realized....she now has all the quilt blocks back and will be sewing them together in a wall hanging to be auctioned off July 31 thru September 1.....further benefiting Susan G. Komen for the cure.
Monica thinks of others.......I can almost see the wheels go round in her lovely mind of who can we help next?!
Well there is a next.........this time a campaign to protest the horrific murders of women in Juarez, Mexico. Please click here for her call to this cause.
I haven't received my issue of the new magazine yet but my dear friend Vanessa did. I received an excited and wonderful call from her when she got hers because not only was she also a participant and proud as me to partake....but (I am not boasting here at all) the pic of my square was on the first page. Now that's a good friend!!!!
She scanned these images so I could see and subsequently emailed them to Monica who hasn't received her copy yet either. :(
We are all thrilled and excited that yet another project, another vision of sweet Monica is happening again. You can't help but feel pride in being even the tiniest part of her vision....her heart! Way to go Monica!
I feel SO honored!
That's Vanessa's beautiful square first one in row 2.
Look at that stack of deliciousness, I can't wait to see the finished art quilt!
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And there's someone else
...............if you don't know who Bernie Berlin and her "A Place to BarK" you can click on the link. Bernie is another amazing soul who gives all she has to the rescue of dogs and cats for certain demise. Read her stories, watch her videos, to know what it takes to further her quest for a safe haven and eventual placement of these beloved animals. If you Twitter follow Animal Planet today and request they do a reality TV show of her and her shelter. Bernie needs grants and money to keep her dream alive, to have the proper facilities, build more shelters, feed, vet bills, equipment and more. A show would not only bring attention to her facility but also earn her money to keep it growing and thriving. She, like Monica, has a huge heart for giving. Bernie's belongs to all those 4 legged "babies" she works hard to get thriving again. This request isn't about Bernie in any way or her desire to be a TV personality..........A Place to Bark needs this......it needs funding to keep it going. Her love knows no bounds and since it's up to us humans and if you love animals, if you've ever adopted an animal..........you know how essential what she is doing is.
This is her passion and all those dogs she has placed in loving homes are happy now because of her efforts.........her lack of sleep......her love for them!!
There is a place on her right side bar on her blog where you can make donations OR there is an address where to send much needed items.
Think about it the next time you look in to your pets eyes, especially if you adopted that pet..........there by the grace of people like Bernie Berlin is your 4-legged family member!
Oh the wonderful, giving, generous people you find in Blogland...........they take your breath away. They make you want to be a better person. They lead by example.
I honor 2 of them today!
Love,
Lisa
XOXOXO




















Be authentically you, don't let blogging completely define your self worth.
I’ve been really trying to make the effort to blog more…..but the truth of the matter is sometimes there is simply just nothing to say. It happens.
It is then that I start my introspection about blogging and how it can play with ones head if you’re not careful. There are days when someone may put their heart and soul in to a post, complete with outstanding photos and essay. You would think that it would draw readers in to not only savor the interesting post but take the time to comment. BUT what I am witnessing is that isn’t happening as much as you’d think.
There are some who have an amazing following, their readership, comments and stats are through the roof. It is those people who can post the bare minimum and still have a slew of comments as if they just wrote the great American novel. There is no rhyme or reason.
There is also a sort of tit for tat mentality that happens as well with blogging……you come to mine and then I’ll come to yours. You don’t comment on mine so I won’t comment on yours. Now personally I don’t feel that way but it’s happening to a lot of bloggers nonetheless. The other thing that happens is some bloggers wrap their self esteem and self worth in their blogs so that when the readership/comments/stats are low they feel bad about themselves. Suddenly they are questioning blogging all together, they feel uninteresting and a waste of time. It’s sad to think that so much importance is put on these things because it brings people to a low state of mind. It messes with their heads and obliterates their egos.
There are millions of people who blog. There are millions of various types of people who blog. There are millions of various types of blogs themselves. It’s truly hard to say what makes some click for some and not for others. But the bottom line is if we wrap up our self worth in it there are going to be times you feel kicked down. For those who have an outstanding readership and following that’s all they know and sometimes it can work the opposite and give some a huge ego.
So where is the middle ground?
Do you ever ask yourself why you blog? Many started out as a way to keep family and friends informed of the goings on in their lives. Far and wide they could keep up with happenings, children and life in general. Many started as a way to showcase their art or knitting or sewing or photography etc. They could talk about it, show photos of it and find kindred spirits who did the same thing as them. They can promote their work too, advertise a website or Etsy shop. There are swaps and challenges and Blog events happening all the time. Some people amaze me at how they can keep up with SO many things going on at one time and be involved in all of them. It’s all about how much time and effort you, as an individual, want to put in to it. And even those people who are consummate “joiners” don’t get the comments on their blog you’d think they would. Not because their blog isn’t interesting, I think people are spending more time on life…..reading a few blogs a day but just not commenting. I am guilty of that myself so if I do lament the lack of visitors I remind myself of that.
I truly feel that you could have every bell and whistle on your blog………photos galore………and still maybe not get the readership you wanted or anticipated or hoped for. It’s basically a crap shoot!
The hard part I know is if you go to blogs where in a matter of 5 minutes after posting they have 47 comments and you think to yourself “I posted all about such and such with beautiful and fun photos but I got only 6 comments in 3 days”. Don’t do it! Don’t compare yourself! That person has followers that wait with bated breath for that person to post……..and many of those followers may only follow THAT person or very few others. You can’t beat yourself up over it and you’ll never figure out the whys of it. Just remain true to yourself, your vision and your life. Don’t try to emulate another in order to get people to comment because then you lose the authentic you in the process.
In the art arena where blogging is concerned you have those who are highly visible…….they’ve had work in several publications, other blogs have mentioned them, interviewed them, they maybe even teach at all the venues in and out of the country. They may even have other websites with a link to their blog. So as someone who does art you probably long for that kind of visibility. Right? I mean who doesn’t. You post 15 pictures of your hard work and barely anyone comments and then what do you do? You question the worth of the art you put your heart and soul in to. DON’T! Be true to who you are……don’t measure against what other bloggers do in determining if you are a worthy artist. It’s ludicrous!
By doing that you are giving over power to people you don’t even know to validate you when in fact MANY people may see what you’re doing and think “wow, she/he is fantastic!” but as I said before……..they just don’t say it. It doesn’t mean it isn’t true.
Every human being wants validation that they are worth something. Worth someone’s time. Worth being heard. Worth being seen. But the truth is self worth starts inside……..we need to love ourselves….respect ourselves…..believe in ourselves before we can expect anyone else to. And perhaps you won’t get it from blogging……but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t blog.
If it gives you joy to post daily, weekly, monthly, or way more than that………and it’s things you want to share and maybe even enlighten……..do it………do it for YOU! Do it because it gives you pleasure not out of obligation. You are obligated to no one to do anything……..except be yourself. Remember this too, with the advent of Facebook, Twitter, MySpace and Flickr there are so many choices to connect with people that it’s spreading people thin. Life, husbands, wives, kids, jobs, projects, elder parents and so on take precedents over commenting or even reading blogs sometimes. The economy the way it is people are struggling to stay above water. AND sometimes those who read a blog that they truly are drawn to don’t know what to say. That’s the other side of the coin here………..there are some who don’t feel what they have to comment is worthy or “this person doesn’t even know me”. Oh the variables in this blogesphere.
Think about it and give your self worth, your mind a break. This is all about ego….
I didn’t write this because I am feeling low or unworthy………..I’m just seeing and hearing about people who are feeling hit with doubts about themselves. Sure I’d love to get tons of comments and notoriety and my art seen in many places………….I’m human…….BUT at the end of the day I am not going to stop doing what I love based on that. I am defined by who I am as a person, a friend, a spouse and artist and so on. I love blogging but I am more than my blog. It's up to me to get myself out there.
If you like what you see… fine, if you don’t like what you see…. that’s fine too. Blogging is only a small part of what I do or even who I am……..we are all the sum total of all the facets of our lives. Bask in your humanness and stay authentic in life and in blogging. Try to find the balance in all aspects of your life without letting blogging tip the scales in either direction.
This post is not meant as a cry for comments here on my own blog.........NO, NO.....this wasn't meant for any other reason than to hopefully help those who are feeling down.
For those that sing that old kids song:
"no body likes me, everybody hates me...I think I'll go eat worms" based solely on how many come to their blog.
It's not true! People DO like you!
You are you - you have lots to offer!
Don't worry..........keep blogging......
Love,
Lisa
XOXOXO
Posted by Lisa Oceandreamer Swifka on May 15, 2009 in authentic selves, comments don't define you, self worth | Permalink | Comments (43) | TrackBack (0)